Part ll of The art of lingerei and astrology

The second installment of our pretty lingerie series highlights what's steamy for dreamy Pisces, tomboy Scorpio, sultry Libra and more. See how your sun sign can guide you to be your best... all under!

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Loosing a Soulmate... how to cope.

Losing a soulmate is truly devastating. You thought you had met your match. You finally found the person with whom you had planned to share your entire life. Then one day the relationship ends. The pain can seem like it will never go away.

Losing someone with whom we have achieved great happiness, whether through death or the end of a relationship, is something we may all have to deal with in our lifetime. This doesn't lessen the blow in any way. Words alone cannot describe, and should not describe, this kind of loss. Attempting to get over someone overnight only dismisses deep feelings you have. You will never get over it. Instead, grow with the loss. Create a mental shrine, a special place for the memories that you have and will always have.

We all suffer, but how we choose to cope sets our journey. There are no magic words or super-drugs to make things okay overnight. Continuing with life is a moment-by-moment, day-by-day, week-by-week process. The thing to remember is that anyone who has loved us would never want us to cease our lives in their absence. Time makes the future easier and memories make us stronger.

A reading with Ms. Laura will help you live with your losses through understanding and the hope of brighter tomorrows.

Where Men and Women differ...

As modern women enter more and more male-dominated arenas, women are often told to be more like men. But when it comes to having happy, healthy relationships, men can learn a lot from the fairer sex. Here are our top three things men can learn from women.

Pay Attention
Women are looked at as the more sensitive, thoughtful gender. "Women's intuition" is considered an almost paranormal ability to see things men don't. Yet without even tapping into their psychic gifts, women have an edge on men when it comes to insight: because they pay attention.

Women are often more interested in personal relationships, so they tend to observe other people more closely and listen more actively. By hearing and remembering interpersonal details, women develop a greater for understanding of the people around them.

How many men have heard the same criticism a thousand times: "Why don't you listen to me?" What their partner really means is, "Why don't you pay attention to what I'm saying?"

Men need to learn from women that paying attention isn't a passive process. It's about being engaged enough to understand what's being said, remember it and act on it in the future. If you're confused or disinterested in what your partner is saying, don't tune out. Make a conscious effort to engage yourself in what she's saying by asking questions or contributing to the conversation.

Slow Down
Because women are so interested in the details of interpersonal relationships, they often recognize that the complexities of life require a great deal of patience.

Men are notorious for trying to "fix" problems. Women, on the other hand, often deliberately take time to vent about a problem and analyze it from many angles before taking action.

Men are often applauded for their ambition and drive to get things done. But they can learn a lesson from women about how to balance the need for speed with the desire to do things right. Women tend to show more patience with people and situations, and in the end, that can mean they find better, more long-lasting solutions.

When confronted with issues, your first instinct as a man may be the need to take action. When that happens, pay attention and ask yourself, Why do I need an immediate solution? Is there time to do more research, ask more questions and find a better answer?

By becoming more aware of how you react to problems, you will allow yourself more opportunities for thoughtful analysis and planning.

Cry! Laugh! Pout! Smile!
Men are often teased for not being in touch with their "softer side." The truth is, even men who are very connected with their emotions are often uncomfortable expressing them outwardly. Unfortunately, men know that society frowns upon them showing the same emotions as women -- men who are "too" sad, happy or angry are often considered effeminate.

But by not allowing themselves to express emotion, men are just missing out! If men can learn to express their feelings like women, they will be freer to enjoy the rich emotional texture of life.

Next time you're upset, open up to a good friend. You may be surprised by how good it feels to have someone to lean on.

Do you love the one your with?

You know you're in love because you say it every day. You do in-love things together and make in-love plans. You probably spend a lot of energy making sure your partner is in love with you. But how do you really know?

A loving relationship is a beautiful thing - when it's forged for the right reasons. Unfortunately, it's all too often that months or years go by before we realize we've been hanging on to something that wasn't what it appeared to be. Don't reduce love to a habit. Ask yourself a few fundamental questions to see if those three little words still ring true.

1. Is there fun in the ordinary?
When the marathon of hot nights and candlelit dinners is a thing of the past, will you still dig the present? Don't be fooled by fleeting thrills. It's important that she's as exciting curled up on the couch as she is ripping it up on the dancefloor…because when 50 is behind you, you'll be looking at some very different moves. It may take two to tango, but it takes the right two to make a strong finish.

The test is in the little moments. Anyone can get swept away on a weekend retreat. When you have a blast laughing over burnt breakfast, you know you're onto something good.

2. Forget love. Are you in like?
Sure, you enjoy the usual sweetheart perks: companionship, compliments, sex. But do you really like your partner? It might seem like a given, but many a wayward romantic gets lost in a romance with someone who doesn't have those basic qualities she respects. Ask yourself: would your assessment of your other half impress his friends? Could it land her a job? When you're in like, you respect your partner's integrity, admire his choices and in important ways, want to be more like him. With as much time as the two of you are likely to spend together, your partner is going to rub off on you. Make sure he rubs you the right way.

3. Does your mate bring out the best in you?
If you can be yourself around your love, and you truly enjoy the experience, you're probably onto something real. According to Dr. Steven, Head of the Department of Psychology at the Open University in the UK, being in love has a lot to do with what it does to us: "It's when we're in love, when we feel desired that we really begin to feel excited... engaged with living. The great potential of love is that it enables us to try to overcome our existential aloneness, to try to connect fully with another human being."

If you're spending your time trying to please your lover, or worse, to earn their love, you may be missing the point. Sure, relationships are work, and it's important (and pleasurable!) to try and make our partners happy, but there's a fairly uncompromising bottom line: your relationship should enrich your life.

The truly gratifying part of the act of love is not just how much you like your partner; it's how much you like who you are when you're together. If you can be happy, be inspired and be yourself, you're probably on the right track. Love may make you say and do a lot of crazy things, but true love makes you love being you.